Wednesday, April 16, 2008

Life is Simple

When viewed by a 3 year old. My husband was recently diagnosed with colon cancer. It was a bit of a shock to us. He's so young (27) we've only been married 4 years (doesn't it always seem longer?) and I want to see him grow old and gray, that's part of why I married him! It's been an interesting thing to think about. He points out the possibility of death, I tell him not to. I know that it is there, but I'd prefer to think that he's going to make it. Now if you believe and focus hard enough, it can be a reality right?

The main reason for this post, well there are 2. I like to think each person who I tell of his cancer, a little bit more dies away. Now this doesn't mean we aren't making changes to his diet and lifestyle. Just a little at a time. It's hard when you're young and stubborn and come to live on things like soda instead of water. I am proud of the fact that he's trying, he'll get there soon enough.

Secondly, we recently told our daughter a little about Daddy. You see he's been sick since the end of January. In and out of the hospital a few times and to different appointments. As well as just sick at home. So we've talked to her a bit about his tummy hurting (for awhile her's hurt daily as well, she'd relax with him). When he went in in March, he needed surgery and so when Daddy wasn't gonna be home for a few days, I told her that was why. The doctors were fixing Daddy's hurt tummy. My hubby told her the other day he was still sick. (We want her to know a bit of what is going on because she does notice the changes in us and our moods or the energy of the house, however you want to say that.) Her response was simply "Uh huh, and the doctor's are going to make you better."

So I am working on spending my time thinking simply as a child, he will get better, the doctor's will make him better and that's all there is to it. Call it denial or just wanting to look at things in a positive light, I'll keep the darker thoughts at bay. It does no good to dwell on what could be. And the picture, well that's simply a kiss from a baby girl to her daddy.

6 comments:

Liz said...

Oh what a sweet and sad post. I am sorry that your family is going through this. Your husband is in our thoughts and prayers. Keep your head up...
Liz

Sarah said...

I love you all very much and think of you often. Shane and I will do anything we can to help!

Jane said...

Jeff, I cannot believe this is true. You probably won't remember me, but we lived down the street from your Mum and Dad. You didn't live at home much then. Our prayers go out to you. We will pray for a complete return to health,for you have an amazing wife and two wonderful children.

terryann said...

I belive in Prayer and will continue to have you and yours in mine! With Love God Bless

Maddie and Mommy said...

blessings to you and him - I love how easy life becomes when viewed through the eyes of a child.

Teri's Treasures said...

Hey MayRae! Thanks for sending this link, that picture is so beautiful of your loved ones, I stopped to check what it was about, brought tears to my eyes! Please believe, you have many caring hearts praying for your husband and you... as you know, if you need us, we will be here for you! Much love to you and yours, Teri